Wow Alex, I’ve always been a fan of your newsletters, but this was really good. Frankly some of the stuff is a bit hard to believe…
I feel like giving a man “acceptance for who he is” doesn’t line up with my experience of men who seem more interested in convincing me to have anal sex or do some other thing they saw in a porno.
I sure would like to meet some of the guys who prefer me to be a good receiver than constantly wanting me to give all the time! So where are they?
WOW! I’m smiling with delight. It’s May, and the Revolutionary Sex For Women program is due out. How exciting. I am passionate, and I LOVE sex and receiving and giving. If you have tips about how to love my 63-year young body as I re-enter the world of relationships, I’m ready and looking forward to more of what you shared on this video. YEEHAH!
The Bad News: The release of Revolutionary Sex For Women has been DELAYED until the 23rd. A family emergency came up that is consuming a lot of my time, and I haven’t been able to get everything done in time for the launch of the women’s program.
The Good News: YES! I am committed to bringing you some seriously ground-breaking tips and ideas about how to love your body at ANY age. It is such a critically important factor in sexual satisfaction that I am making it one of the fundamental cornerstones of this program.
I completely agree with everything you said here. Never really thought about it that way, but this is great to think about how sex is so important in a relationship and its function!
Yey! Go Alex!!! So beautiful – and a relief, so good to hear you, a man, speak about these things and if you are teaching this with men also then life can only improve;) and personally so good to hear that the things that count are key components of the things I am so interested in…now to continue the process of bringing this forward in myself, with my partner and with the people I work with too.
A request – some tips as to how to talk with men – general interest, individuals, men in rocky relationships – about the impact of the media with sexual imagery/stars gossip/porn /internet sex services/ect on real relationships in a way that men wont feel judged/not accepted and therefore become reactionary…especially as there are men who are rich, priveleged, have status in the eyes of the media and are constantly involved with multiple women/porn/sexual extravaganzas (not sure they are always actuallly happy!) etc etc thus suggesting that this is a successful man…and upheld in this way in men’s magazines, business journals etc.
Given thatwomen have to constantly consciously work to hold onto themselves independant of media representations and everyone knows this is a challenge, how can we bring forward this discussion with our men in a way that opens up the discussion for mutual learning – as often mens media included soft porn, it is a delicate area without risking sounding like mum/schoolmarm/jealous lover/insecure partner…it seems another delicate area
(just to say to any other readers, truly mutually consenting partners can do what they like)
and best wishes, caring thoughts regarding your family situation – may all be well for everyone
you are so generous with your readers, I trust we can all send energy and love your way
Wow Alex . . . your insight into men vs. women and women vs. men is truly on the mark! Having been a widow for several years I finally have met the most incredible man and totally relate to your observations. Also, being in my early 50′s and having lived life I am very comfortable with my sexuality and find myself enjoying the best sex ever. It is nice to hear that most men also share the similar desires that women do. I look forward to your future insights. Thanks!
Awesome Alex, thank you so much for sharing! Now I get it more than ever, oh wow, that’s hilarious. When a man says he came after me because I made him feel comfortable, then all good! Guess it felt too easy to hear him say that Alex and now thanks to you will take it for gold ! Other than that, if a man can not be intimate every day physically, in all probability we won’t work, love touch too much. Have parents married 44 years and are as intimate now as they were decades ago as well look 20 years younger currently 64. So Mom and Dad, well done! love you ! that is rich. Energetically speaking, was right in front me the whole time. Fantastic! Thank you again Alex. xx
Just watched your vid, and felt compelled to leave a comment. It really resonated with me as I am currently involved in a new relationship, and so far so good! More than anything I am trying to be the woman I could be, and I believe this has made a real difference to how me and my partner are interacting with each other sexually.
Just watched your vid, and felt compelled to leave a comment. Your words resonated with me as I am currently embarking on a new relationship, and more than anything I am trying to be the woman I could be. I believe this has made a real difference to how me and my partner are interacting with each other sexually. It’s really reassuring to know that someone like yourself is out there, helping others to embrace their sexual selves.
Wow! I just went through a bad break up of a 23 year marriage. I heard your things that a man wants and I just cried. You are so right on about your information. I gave everything I had to her and our relationship and recieved very little. I am not knocking her but, she was not comfortable with her sexuality, not was she able to let me be me, nor ws she a passionate person. All I ever really asked for from her for me to feel loved was a hug and a kiss. this was extremely hard for her to do. I really liked your comment about ” The difference between a friendship and a relationship is the sex ” In 23 years of marriage I can honestly say that our sex life did not exist. We had a good friendship and that was all. Thanks for this information, it will be very useful in my healing and in my next relationship. Ray Weis
just watched your vid and fell compelled to leave a comment and so far so good more than any thing i am trying to be a woman i could be and i believe that this will make a big difference to how me and my partner are interacting with each other sexually.
hi very true about how we react when dealing with family… and others…very pracical info …your voice was lost many times as you were NOT in the mike so info too was lost but not too bad thanks fc
I really enjoyed the video. I’m doing some relationship writing online and learning a lot to share with other women struggling with the same things I have also struggled with in the past. I was married for 15 years and can relate to the friendship thing…my ex and I were roommates..nothing more..I cared very deeply for him, but was not “In Love” with him. I feel true passion with the current man in my life…he is the man I wished I had met long ago…we connect on so many different levels. He is 14 years older than I…he says I seem to accept him for the man he is…I’m crazy about the man he is…He says he likes mypassion and affection and my ideas…I always want him in my life…he’s perfect for me.
Wow – I can actually understand what I have heard. My husband and I recently went through a difficult time in our marriage. Fortunately, for us it enhanced our sex life. It really took some tragic times to make us realize the state of our relationship. Our sex life got better naturally as a result of what has happened. Now that our sex life has improved immensely it makes me realize that it WAS the the glue that made us stick in the first place. Now I know that if there is ever a problem again I would know because THAT is my barometer. It is where our connection starts and what holds us together. We now have a magical union together and we are at a great place. You are right this changes everything.
THANKS !
Thank you for your interest!! The program will be released on May 23rd at noon, Pacific Time. You will get an email letting you know when it is available… and lot’s of other stuff that you DON’T have to buy is coming your way first.
@Kerry, I’m so sorry that there is no access for the blind on the video. The audio portion carries the meaning. In the future I will discuss with my webmaster how to make my materials more accessible.
@Sheri, Evon, etc., YES. We humans always feel like we have to DO something to earn love. But we are not loved for what we DO. We are loved simply by showing up, being ourselves, and giving our partner acceptance and love in return. It’s easy to say, but a very hard one to really FEEL in your life.
O.K.
this man is a great preacher about sex and life
great insights to combining both
he talks of things that are good to hear if you haven’t heard them before and always good to hear again
right to the heart(sometimes head)
loved what he said about passion
I also would love to have his book or this stuff on a cd
1. Because people have been married for 50 years, doesn’t make those happy, contented years. Suffering, struggling, staying are all indicators that something is very much mis-aligned. The greatest sex on the planet was not intended to be a panacea for unhappiness in other areas of our lives.
2. I couldn’t disagree more that relationships are hard and that they’re work. I would never, and have never, stayed in any situation that was hard and work, including relationships. I’ve only attracted extraordinary men who were incredible partners who understood the importance of making our connection a priority… sex was not the foundation on which our connection thrived.
3. Sex is not glue. Heart connection, mutual understanding, service to each other, kindness, shared memories, maintaining your own interests to keep yourself interesting to both of you… those are glue and will endure over time.
Alex, I agree with what you say but…you neglect an important point. For a woman to be passionate, to be an enthusiastic partner, requires the man to also be a passionate and enthusiastic partner. A woman must feel appreciated to be enthusiastic. I am blessed to now be in a relationship with a man that enjoys and appreciates both my mind and my body and actively shares that with me. Sex is fantastic and we can’t get enough of each other (even though I am in my 50s and he is in his 60s). In my 24 year marriage to a very attractive, sexy man, I never experienced the satisfaction I now find in sex. My husband did not appreciate me and was constantly reminding me I was no longer the “skinny girl” he married. I am not fat or unattractive but do have the figure of a woman (not a girl). I appreciate my body and my sexuality but his attitude toward me did have the effect of dampening my enthusiasm. What men want (passion, enthusiasm, feelings of acceptance) are also the things women want. When a woman is with a man that appreciates her and is enthusiastic about making love to her, she becomes enthusiastic. Enthusiasm runs both ways and fulfilling sex is an interaction that requires two-way communication.
This is wonderful. Just starting over after 20 years of marriage. Starting a new relationship with a wonderful man and this will be truly helpful in trying to get it right this time.
Acceptance
Receptivity
Self Awareness
Joy
The 10 biggest mistakes download is absolutely great.
No. 1 is so true. I always believed that every woman has a little bad girl in her but it isn’t something needed 24/7. It’s just to be used as a little spice once in a while not on a permanent basis and attract the wrong kind of person. No. 2 is spot on. No. 3 and No. 4 is so true. It’s something for both parties to have fun and experience together and not point fingers as to fault. No. 5 – I love you for putting that in. Everytime I say something like that my so called boyfriend says I’m full of crap. No. 6 is definitely no. 1 in my book. It’s something that I’ve struggled with my whole life. It’s good to know that I’m not alone. 7 is a delicate matter. He probably isn’t doing something wrong it’s just something that you don’t particularly care for.
Thank you very much for this list. It’s so true and it is just something that most of us do unconsciously. It’s so great to hear something real about what men really think.
Between the media and society we are so conditioned that women have to act a certain way, look a certain way, it’s a sin for women to actually enjoy sex let alone want to have sex, etc. that you just don’t see all the mistakes that we are really making unconsciously.
Thanks again. Can’t wait for your “Revolutionary Sex for Women”.
Thanks for your work. Had already watched this video (forwarded to me by my life coach) and enjoyed it then. Now I’m looking forward to the newsletters for women you promise and the book. Is there more to signing up, or does this cover that?
There was a bit where you said, Alex, that we should receive just like when someone gives you a present and they are happy to give for you to receive because that’s the way humans are designed. Is what you’re saying that if someone gives you something and it’s because they are happy that you receive it, then you just say yes because that’s the way humans are designed? If that’s what you’re saying, I agree with you. Great video. Looking forward to the rest of your material.
just want to let you know that i enjoyed the video…ive always beenone who is in touch with my body ..im a 51 yr old woman who loves sex ….but i cant find a man who is in touch with his …its so hard out there …they seem to get frightened of me ..so how does it work …ive been by myself for 5 yrs …have had lots of dates but never slept with any of them …..they seem to lose respect for you when you do ….i had an encounter with a much younger guy but he seems to just want thefun for h imself ….so where does that leave you ….my undertandingof it all is to just be yourself and have fun with the partner your with …tell him what you need and want in the bedroom ..cause you wont get it otherwise …just be forfilled …
I really enjoyed watching this video – what Alex is saying has many levels to it. What he is telling us really is deeply spirtual. it’s all about becoming a better human being, and in turn a better partner – which in turn leads to a better, richer deeper relationship with someone. And this all leads to a very fulfilling sexual element of that relationship. Very wise!
Wonderful Video! I agree with men being attracted to a sexually “in touch” and confident woman It’s less about looks and more about personality! Thank you for spreading this awesome message! You have a very informative way of explaining all of these concepts and you are very “on point.” Stellar!
Thought your explanation of receiving pleasure without feeling obliged to reciprocate was very interesting/enlightening. Giving must be the same too.
I’ve heard that for many men it’s important for them to be able to give a woman pleasure, I’m struggling to believe this.
Right now, it feels like you are more talking about how to live a good life than having a good sex life. Mind you, I like that because I think you cannot have a good sex life – as in fulfilling – if you don’t know how to live.
Alex,
I just loved listening to You…..everything you say makes so much sense
I am currently in a relationship with a wonderful man….he has his problems, tho, as a result of being a vietnam veteran, including PTSD, and has agent orange in his system,
So….MAYBE as a result of these issues, we have not yet had any sexual intimacy.
Hi again, Alex….
for some reason, I didnt have a chance to finish what I was saying….
I was cut off from here
now I forgot….lol
If I think of it, I will make a comment at another time….
One thing that most women have in common, and which harder to achieve for men is the ability to have multiple orgasms.
My husbands greatest pleasure is to make me come for hours in a row… mainly by giving me oral sex. When we just got married 7 years ago, I sometimes felt guilty because he was doing most of the work, and I stopped to ‘return the favor’ so to speak. Over the last 2 years I have been able to let go of that idea, and just ‘receive’ untill I literarely black out with the last big bang!
Turns out it is the greatest gift I could give to him!!! By being able to enjoy such overwhelming amounts of sex, i am finally able to ‘connect’ to my truest self and reveal the real sexy beast in me which he loves to devour!
Bravo for your insights, Alex, much love!
One thing I would like to add, for all those men and women out there that think that after a while it might become boring: it doesn’t have to!!
We all have our creativity but many of us won’t use it towards sex…
Once one is able to tap into this infinite source of creativity which happens mostly in the mind, thus able to create bodily sensations you have never experienced before, magic will start to happen. I love to call that Sex-Magic!
After 7 years of marriage, everytime my husband and I are looking forward to having sex, because EVERY SINGLE TIME that we ‘do it’ it is DIFFERENT! Just by letting our imagination go wild, the sky isn’t even the limit anymore, there are none!
ENJOY
I agree with all of the things that you talked about in video, and I would so much like to talk with you or send you an email that would be private, is this possible?
Would you please tell men that they can help a woman become comfortable with her sexuality? After 20 years of marriage, I was still not comfortable with myself…even though I am 5’4″, 120 lbs, keep myself “done”and knew I looked “OK”, I never felt pretty or sexy and was still very uncomfortable with my husband seeing me naked. Because what you say in the video is so true, our marriage slowly disintegrated, and I believe our sex life was the biggest contributor. Now I’m in a relationship with a man who in a few short months has made me very comfortable with myself and my sexuality. The difference? My husband NEVER told me I was sexy, touched me just for the sake of touching, didn’t want me to have multiple orgasms (it wasn’t fair for me to when he couldn’t), told me he loved my body, etc. etc. I know I should have found that comfort within myself, but never did. Please tell men to let their partners know everything they love about them, tell them how beautiful they are, and to touch & kiss them without having a specific, immediate motive (sex). Thanks for your insight.
I do accept as true with all of the ideas you have offered for your post. They are very convincing and will certainly work. Still, the posts are too quick for beginners. May you please lengthen them a bit from next time? Thank you for the post.
56 responses so far ↓
1 Abbey // Apr 18, 2010 at 11:06 am
you are a genious and i absolutely love you. you have made sex so much more fun for my man and I
2 Rachel // Apr 18, 2010 at 12:36 pm
GREAT video!
3 Leanne // Apr 18, 2010 at 12:41 pm
Wow Alex, I’ve always been a fan of your newsletters, but this was really good. Frankly some of the stuff is a bit hard to believe…
I feel like giving a man “acceptance for who he is” doesn’t line up with my experience of men who seem more interested in convincing me to have anal sex or do some other thing they saw in a porno.
I sure would like to meet some of the guys who prefer me to be a good receiver than constantly wanting me to give all the time! So where are they?
Big kiss from a big fan,
L.
4 Michele Mattingly // Apr 18, 2010 at 3:05 pm
WOW! I’m smiling with delight. It’s May, and the Revolutionary Sex For Women program is due out. How exciting. I am passionate, and I LOVE sex and receiving and giving. If you have tips about how to love my 63-year young body as I re-enter the world of relationships, I’m ready and looking forward to more of what you shared on this video. YEEHAH!
5 admin // Apr 18, 2010 at 3:45 pm
@Michele
The Bad News: The release of Revolutionary Sex For Women has been DELAYED until the 23rd.
A family emergency came up that is consuming a lot of my time, and I haven’t been able to get everything done in time for the launch of the women’s program.
The Good News: YES! I am committed to bringing you some seriously ground-breaking tips and ideas about how to love your body at ANY age. It is such a critically important factor in sexual satisfaction that I am making it one of the fundamental cornerstones of this program.
6 CD // Apr 18, 2010 at 4:44 pm
I completely agree with everything you said here. Never really thought about it that way, but this is great to think about how sex is so important in a relationship and its function!
7 Amanda // Apr 18, 2010 at 11:34 pm
Yey! Go Alex!!! So beautiful – and a relief, so good to hear you, a man, speak about these things and if you are teaching this with men also then life can only improve;) and personally so good to hear that the things that count are key components of the things I am so interested in…now to continue the process of bringing this forward in myself, with my partner and with the people I work with too.
A request – some tips as to how to talk with men – general interest, individuals, men in rocky relationships – about the impact of the media with sexual imagery/stars gossip/porn /internet sex services/ect on real relationships in a way that men wont feel judged/not accepted and therefore become reactionary…especially as there are men who are rich, priveleged, have status in the eyes of the media and are constantly involved with multiple women/porn/sexual extravaganzas (not sure they are always actuallly happy!) etc etc thus suggesting that this is a successful man…and upheld in this way in men’s magazines, business journals etc.
Given thatwomen have to constantly consciously work to hold onto themselves independant of media representations and everyone knows this is a challenge, how can we bring forward this discussion with our men in a way that opens up the discussion for mutual learning – as often mens media included soft porn, it is a delicate area without risking sounding like mum/schoolmarm/jealous lover/insecure partner…it seems another delicate area
(just to say to any other readers, truly mutually consenting partners can do what they like)
8 Amanda // Apr 18, 2010 at 11:36 pm
and best wishes, caring thoughts regarding your family situation – may all be well for everyone
you are so generous with your readers, I trust we can all send energy and love your way
9 Sue // Apr 19, 2010 at 10:09 am
Wow Alex . . . your insight into men vs. women and women vs. men is truly on the mark! Having been a widow for several years I finally have met the most incredible man and totally relate to your observations. Also, being in my early 50′s and having lived life I am very comfortable with my sexuality and find myself enjoying the best sex ever. It is nice to hear that most men also share the similar desires that women do. I look forward to your future insights. Thanks!
10 Lizza // Apr 20, 2010 at 10:21 am
Fabulous information. Gives me hope.
11 Sheri // Apr 25, 2010 at 11:54 am
Awesome Alex, thank you so much for sharing! Now I get it more than ever, oh wow, that’s hilarious. When a man says he came after me because I made him feel comfortable, then all good! Guess it felt too easy to hear him say that Alex and now thanks to you will take it for gold ! Other than that, if a man can not be intimate every day physically, in all probability we won’t work, love touch too much. Have parents married 44 years and are as intimate now as they were decades ago as well look 20 years younger currently 64. So Mom and Dad, well done! love you ! that is rich. Energetically speaking, was right in front me the whole time. Fantastic! Thank you again Alex.
xx
12 handlewithcare // Apr 25, 2010 at 12:36 pm
So much stuff to digest,give me time Alex!
Amazing,and will be sharing this with my daughters when the time is right.
13 Liz // Apr 26, 2010 at 5:14 am
I could not view the video. It is blank. Send me the link again pls.
14 Joy // May 12, 2010 at 8:29 am
Us picky single women would want single men graduates of your classes!
15 Lillain // May 13, 2010 at 1:21 pm
Just watched your vid, and felt compelled to leave a comment. It really resonated with me as I am currently involved in a new relationship, and so far so good! More than anything I am trying to be the woman I could be, and I believe this has made a real difference to how me and my partner are interacting with each other sexually.
16 Lillian // May 13, 2010 at 1:25 pm
Just watched your vid, and felt compelled to leave a comment. Your words resonated with me as I am currently embarking on a new relationship, and more than anything I am trying to be the woman I could be. I believe this has made a real difference to how me and my partner are interacting with each other sexually. It’s really reassuring to know that someone like yourself is out there, helping others to embrace their sexual selves.
17 owolabi amos // May 18, 2010 at 3:30 pm
since l have reading your information am really blessed
18 Ray Weis // May 18, 2010 at 8:41 pm
Wow! I just went through a bad break up of a 23 year marriage. I heard your things that a man wants and I just cried. You are so right on about your information. I gave everything I had to her and our relationship and recieved very little. I am not knocking her but, she was not comfortable with her sexuality, not was she able to let me be me, nor ws she a passionate person. All I ever really asked for from her for me to feel loved was a hug and a kiss. this was extremely hard for her to do. I really liked your comment about ” The difference between a friendship and a relationship is the sex ” In 23 years of marriage I can honestly say that our sex life did not exist. We had a good friendship and that was all. Thanks for this information, it will be very useful in my healing and in my next relationship. Ray Weis
19 Cory // May 18, 2010 at 10:19 pm
You are a brilliant speaker and have studied and accomplished your topics wonderfully.
20 tali // May 18, 2010 at 10:32 pm
just watched your vid and fell compelled to leave a comment and so far so good more than any thing i am trying to be a woman i could be and i believe that this will make a big difference to how me and my partner are interacting with each other sexually.
21 FC // May 18, 2010 at 11:19 pm
hi very true about how we react when dealing with family… and others…very pracical info …your voice was lost many times as you were NOT in the mike so info too was lost but not too bad thanks fc
22 Joan // May 19, 2010 at 1:39 am
Where can we buy the book you are talking about?
23 Evon Harris // May 19, 2010 at 2:13 am
I really enjoyed the video. I’m doing some relationship writing online and learning a lot to share with other women struggling with the same things I have also struggled with in the past. I was married for 15 years and can relate to the friendship thing…my ex and I were roommates..nothing more..I cared very deeply for him, but was not “In Love” with him. I feel true passion with the current man in my life…he is the man I wished I had met long ago…we connect on so many different levels. He is 14 years older than I…he says I seem to accept him for the man he is…I’m crazy about the man he is…He says he likes mypassion and affection and my ideas…I always want him in my life…he’s perfect for me.
24 sujitra Subramaniam // May 19, 2010 at 5:23 am
excited…to learn more
25 Kerry Hoath // May 19, 2010 at 8:59 am
This video is impossible to watch if you use a screen reader like Jaws, so Blind people can not watch your video.
26 Sonya Curti // May 19, 2010 at 10:34 am
Wow – I can actually understand what I have heard. My husband and I recently went through a difficult time in our marriage. Fortunately, for us it enhanced our sex life. It really took some tragic times to make us realize the state of our relationship. Our sex life got better naturally as a result of what has happened. Now that our sex life has improved immensely it makes me realize that it WAS the the glue that made us stick in the first place. Now I know that if there is ever a problem again I would know because THAT is my barometer. It is where our connection starts and what holds us together. We now have a magical union together and we are at a great place. You are right this changes everything.
THANKS !
27 Marie // May 19, 2010 at 11:25 am
Brilliant. The simple things are always what we overlook and out think, but that is always where the brilliance shines brightest. Thank you. : D
28 Jo-Ann Nandoo // May 19, 2010 at 12:40 pm
An eye opener for me. Did not realize that the simple things are very important to men
29 Jo-Ann Nandoo // May 19, 2010 at 12:40 pm
Fantistic video
30 Jo-Ann Nandoo // May 19, 2010 at 12:42 pm
Where can I buy the book you are talking about?
31 Wonder // May 19, 2010 at 12:52 pm
WHERE CAN I GETTHE BOOK YOUR TALKING ABOUT AND THE VIDEO CLIPS.
32 admin // May 19, 2010 at 4:04 pm
@Joan, Jo-Ann, Wonder, etc…
Thank you for your interest!! The program will be released on May 23rd at noon, Pacific Time. You will get an email letting you know when it is available… and lot’s of other stuff that you DON’T have to buy is coming your way first.
@Kerry, I’m so sorry that there is no access for the blind on the video. The audio portion carries the meaning. In the future I will discuss with my webmaster how to make my materials more accessible.
@Sheri, Evon, etc., YES. We humans always feel like we have to DO something to earn love. But we are not loved for what we DO. We are loved simply by showing up, being ourselves, and giving our partner acceptance and love in return. It’s easy to say, but a very hard one to really FEEL in your life.
33 David P. Petersen // May 19, 2010 at 4:39 pm
O.K.
this man is a great preacher about sex and life
great insights to combining both
he talks of things that are good to hear if you haven’t heard them before and always good to hear again
right to the heart(sometimes head)
loved what he said about passion
I also would love to have his book or this stuff on a cd
truly David P
34 Charlon Bobo // May 19, 2010 at 4:50 pm
I couldn’t watch more than 4 minutes:
1. Because people have been married for 50 years, doesn’t make those happy, contented years. Suffering, struggling, staying are all indicators that something is very much mis-aligned. The greatest sex on the planet was not intended to be a panacea for unhappiness in other areas of our lives.
2. I couldn’t disagree more that relationships are hard and that they’re work. I would never, and have never, stayed in any situation that was hard and work, including relationships. I’ve only attracted extraordinary men who were incredible partners who understood the importance of making our connection a priority… sex was not the foundation on which our connection thrived.
3. Sex is not glue. Heart connection, mutual understanding, service to each other, kindness, shared memories, maintaining your own interests to keep yourself interesting to both of you… those are glue and will endure over time.
35 Judite // May 20, 2010 at 4:52 am
I thought this had amazing insite! Great eye opener. Where can I learn more?
36 Fran // May 20, 2010 at 5:44 am
Alex, I agree with what you say but…you neglect an important point. For a woman to be passionate, to be an enthusiastic partner, requires the man to also be a passionate and enthusiastic partner. A woman must feel appreciated to be enthusiastic. I am blessed to now be in a relationship with a man that enjoys and appreciates both my mind and my body and actively shares that with me. Sex is fantastic and we can’t get enough of each other (even though I am in my 50s and he is in his 60s). In my 24 year marriage to a very attractive, sexy man, I never experienced the satisfaction I now find in sex. My husband did not appreciate me and was constantly reminding me I was no longer the “skinny girl” he married. I am not fat or unattractive but do have the figure of a woman (not a girl). I appreciate my body and my sexuality but his attitude toward me did have the effect of dampening my enthusiasm. What men want (passion, enthusiasm, feelings of acceptance) are also the things women want. When a woman is with a man that appreciates her and is enthusiastic about making love to her, she becomes enthusiastic. Enthusiasm runs both ways and fulfilling sex is an interaction that requires two-way communication.
37 Susan // May 20, 2010 at 4:09 pm
This is wonderful. Just starting over after 20 years of marriage. Starting a new relationship with a wonderful man and this will be truly helpful in trying to get it right this time.
Acceptance
Receptivity
Self Awareness
Joy
38 Marylin Sanchez // May 20, 2010 at 7:22 pm
Hi, Alex:
The 10 biggest mistakes download is absolutely great.
No. 1 is so true. I always believed that every woman has a little bad girl in her but it isn’t something needed 24/7. It’s just to be used as a little spice once in a while not on a permanent basis and attract the wrong kind of person. No. 2 is spot on. No. 3 and No. 4 is so true. It’s something for both parties to have fun and experience together and not point fingers as to fault. No. 5 – I love you for putting that in. Everytime I say something like that my so called boyfriend says I’m full of crap. No. 6 is definitely no. 1 in my book. It’s something that I’ve struggled with my whole life. It’s good to know that I’m not alone. 7 is a delicate matter. He probably isn’t doing something wrong it’s just something that you don’t particularly care for.
Thank you very much for this list. It’s so true and it is just something that most of us do unconsciously. It’s so great to hear something real about what men really think.
Between the media and society we are so conditioned that women have to act a certain way, look a certain way, it’s a sin for women to actually enjoy sex let alone want to have sex, etc. that you just don’t see all the mistakes that we are really making unconsciously.
Thanks again. Can’t wait for your “Revolutionary Sex for Women”.
39 anastasia // May 21, 2010 at 11:18 am
is it even possible for a woman to do everything right but yet not get what she wants because the man is just no longer sexually interested in her.
40 Elli Fordyce // May 21, 2010 at 11:19 am
Thanks for your work. Had already watched this video (forwarded to me by my life coach) and enjoyed it then. Now I’m looking forward to the newsletters for women you promise and the book. Is there more to signing up, or does this cover that?
Best,
Elli
41 Hana // May 21, 2010 at 11:31 am
Czech Republic/me
) can’t wait for the launch!!!
42 Leila // May 21, 2010 at 2:24 pm
There was a bit where you said, Alex, that we should receive just like when someone gives you a present and they are happy to give for you to receive because that’s the way humans are designed. Is what you’re saying that if someone gives you something and it’s because they are happy that you receive it, then you just say yes because that’s the way humans are designed? If that’s what you’re saying, I agree with you. Great video. Looking forward to the rest of your material.
43 Angela van de Riet // May 21, 2010 at 5:14 pm
Thanks for the great material! Do you have any products for sale DVDs or transcripts? I would love to purchase your product.-Thanks Angela
44 cheryl // May 21, 2010 at 6:19 pm
just want to let you know that i enjoyed the video…ive always beenone who is in touch with my body ..im a 51 yr old woman who loves sex ….but i cant find a man who is in touch with his …its so hard out there …they seem to get frightened of me ..so how does it work …ive been by myself for 5 yrs …have had lots of dates but never slept with any of them …..they seem to lose respect for you when you do ….i had an encounter with a much younger guy but he seems to just want thefun for h imself ….so where does that leave you ….my undertandingof it all is to just be yourself and have fun with the partner your with …tell him what you need and want in the bedroom ..cause you wont get it otherwise …just be forfilled …
45 Rita // May 22, 2010 at 12:05 am
I could not view the video. It was blank. Would you send me the link again please.
46 Miss Daisy // May 22, 2010 at 12:23 am
I really enjoyed watching this video – what Alex is saying has many levels to it. What he is telling us really is deeply spirtual. it’s all about becoming a better human being, and in turn a better partner – which in turn leads to a better, richer deeper relationship with someone. And this all leads to a very fulfilling sexual element of that relationship. Very wise!
47 Jennifer // May 22, 2010 at 1:00 am
Wonderful Video! I agree with men being attracted to a sexually “in touch” and confident woman
It’s less about looks and more about personality! Thank you for spreading this awesome message! You have a very informative way of explaining all of these concepts and you are very “on point.” Stellar!
48 Linda Mulloy // May 22, 2010 at 6:29 am
Thought your explanation of receiving pleasure without feeling obliged to reciprocate was very interesting/enlightening. Giving must be the same too.
I’ve heard that for many men it’s important for them to be able to give a woman pleasure, I’m struggling to believe this.
49 Hildegarde Meganck // May 22, 2010 at 3:57 pm
Right now, it feels like you are more talking about how to live a good life than having a good sex life. Mind you, I like that because I think you cannot have a good sex life – as in fulfilling – if you don’t know how to live.
I am very curious how this will unfold.
50 Bev // May 22, 2010 at 11:27 pm
Alex,
I just loved listening to You…..everything you say makes so much sense
I am currently in a relationship with a wonderful man….he has his problems, tho, as a result of being a vietnam veteran, including PTSD, and has agent orange in his system,
So….MAYBE as a result of these issues, we have not yet had any sexual intimacy.
51 Bev // May 22, 2010 at 11:30 pm
Hi again, Alex….
for some reason, I didnt have a chance to finish what I was saying….
I was cut off from here
now I forgot….lol
If I think of it, I will make a comment at another time….
52 miriamme // May 24, 2010 at 11:46 am
One thing that most women have in common, and which harder to achieve for men is the ability to have multiple orgasms.
My husbands greatest pleasure is to make me come for hours in a row… mainly by giving me oral sex. When we just got married 7 years ago, I sometimes felt guilty because he was doing most of the work, and I stopped to ‘return the favor’ so to speak. Over the last 2 years I have been able to let go of that idea, and just ‘receive’ untill I literarely black out with the last big bang!
Turns out it is the greatest gift I could give to him!!! By being able to enjoy such overwhelming amounts of sex, i am finally able to ‘connect’ to my truest self and reveal the real sexy beast in me which he loves to devour!
Bravo for your insights, Alex, much love!
53 miriamme // May 24, 2010 at 11:55 am
One thing I would like to add, for all those men and women out there that think that after a while it might become boring: it doesn’t have to!!
We all have our creativity but many of us won’t use it towards sex…
Once one is able to tap into this infinite source of creativity which happens mostly in the mind, thus able to create bodily sensations you have never experienced before, magic will start to happen. I love to call that Sex-Magic!
After 7 years of marriage, everytime my husband and I are looking forward to having sex, because EVERY SINGLE TIME that we ‘do it’ it is DIFFERENT! Just by letting our imagination go wild, the sky isn’t even the limit anymore, there are none!
ENJOY
54 roz // May 24, 2010 at 2:12 pm
I agree with all of the things that you talked about in video, and I would so much like to talk with you or send you an email that would be private, is this possible?
55 kim // May 25, 2010 at 6:13 am
Would you please tell men that they can help a woman become comfortable with her sexuality? After 20 years of marriage, I was still not comfortable with myself…even though I am 5’4″, 120 lbs, keep myself “done”and knew I looked “OK”, I never felt pretty or sexy and was still very uncomfortable with my husband seeing me naked. Because what you say in the video is so true, our marriage slowly disintegrated, and I believe our sex life was the biggest contributor. Now I’m in a relationship with a man who in a few short months has made me very comfortable with myself and my sexuality. The difference? My husband NEVER told me I was sexy, touched me just for the sake of touching, didn’t want me to have multiple orgasms (it wasn’t fair for me to when he couldn’t), told me he loved my body, etc. etc. I know I should have found that comfort within myself, but never did. Please tell men to let their partners know everything they love about them, tell them how beautiful they are, and to touch & kiss them without having a specific, immediate motive (sex). Thanks for your insight.
56 John // Mar 1, 2012 at 2:48 am
I do accept as true with all of the ideas you have offered for your post. They are very convincing and will certainly work. Still, the posts are too quick for beginners. May you please lengthen them a bit from next time? Thank you for the post.
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